I finally realized that there are two important questions that I needed to honestly answer for permanent weight loss. And they are: Why am I fat? and Why do I want to lose weight?
Why Am I Fat?
In the past, I really don’t think that I was asked or asked myself why am I fat. Instead, I had all the excuses for my weight. You know them.
I am too busy to cook. I am too busy to exercise. I am too tired to exercise. I can’t afford a gym membership. It’s too cold or too hot to exercise. Healthy food is too expensive. I have a slow metabolism. I only eat when I’m hungry. Most members of my family are overweight, so it must be genetics. You get the picture. I was the queen of excuses who wrote the book of excuses.
However, at the start of this weight loss journey, I did a lot of self-reflection and dug deep to honestly answer the question: Why am I fat?
The answer is I love and eat a lot of high-calorie foods. And my portions were even bigger than the typical North American portions. A typical breakfast is a biscuit with sausage, bacon, and cheese from a local. Lunch might be a hamburger with bacon and cheese plus large french fries.
We ate a lot of Chinese food for dinner which usually included fried rice and noodles. Finally, I ate out or did take out for the overwhelming majority of my meals. I rarely ate desserts, but for snacks, I loved to munch on chips, popcorn with extra butter, and chocolate.
Also, I was extremely sedentary. I sat at my desk a lot. I was either lying on the couch or bed watching TV. I walked very, very little. I always looked for the parking spot closest to the door.
Yes, I have a low thyroid problem that years later is still not stabilized. Yes, I was not blessed with the best genetics. Yes, I have three bulging disks on the back. But know I know that my diet and inactivity are also a major problem.
Once you know exactly why you are fat. It becomes a lot easier to start to work on changing your habits and achieve permanent weight loss. I found eating high protein, high fiber, as well as more fruit and vegetables, was filling and satisfying. Starting slowly with low impact exercises was the best first step for me to become more active.
Why Do I Want To Lose Weight
Previously, my motivation for losing weight always seem good t the time. I want to look good this summer or an upcoming event. Of course, I would say I want to be healthier, but I was not specific about what healthier means to me.
Now my answer to the question of why do I want to lose weight is that I want to live longer and not have any more risk factors to obesity. I avoided going for annual medical check-ups for over 20 years. But in the past, I had borderline high blood pressure and slightly high cholesterol which did not require medication. There is little debate about the harmful effects of obesity and the risk factors.
Many doctors say it’s not if, but when an obese person will be diagnosed with one of these diseases. I only have to look at my family members to see what may eventually happen to me. Perhaps, I’ll be one of the lucky ones. But I’m can’t count on it.
I saw how my mom lived during the last five years of her life. Although she passed away at 95, she was bedridden for the last five years of her life and obviously had to depend on others for everything. Before, this it was a slow transition from a cane, to a walker and then a wheelchair.
I have family members who are using canes and walkers. Again, maybe I’ll be different but I am going to do the best that I can to avoid or delay these mobility issues.
Questions for Permanent Weight Loss
So at age 55, I finally honestly answered why am I fat and why do I want to lose weight and I am on my way to permanent weight loss. And that has made the difference this time around. When I am faced with a choice of avocado toast or sausage, bacon and cheese biscuit. Or deciding to walk while watching TV or lying on the couch. I think back to the answers to these two questions. This has really helped me tremendously.
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I hope that you will take the time to really figure out why you are overweight and why do you want to be successful at weight loss.
Let me know if this has helped your weight loss journey.
I’ve embraced my weight loss journey again at the end of April, I had bulimia in the past and I was too scared to start losing weight and do the same mistakes. Now most of the control is in the hand of my sister who cooks and motivates me
Hi Mimi, You so lucky to have a supportive sister. Can we share her? Good luck with your weight loss journey! You got this!
These are interesting things to think about. Thanks for sharing your ideas.
Hi Lecy, thanks for stopping by and reading my post.
I keep wrestling with wanting to lose weight and wanting to eat whatever I want, but losing weight is losing the fight.
Hi Marta, I know that struggle of wanting to lose weight but wanting to also eat all the food that tastes great but is not the best for us. Hopefully losing weight will win the fight soon. Stay strong.
I think answering the question of why you want to lose weight is really key. You have to have the right motivation or it will never last. Great post!
Hi Jordan, you are so right. Your motivation will be higher if you know why you want to lose weight.
The struggle of losing weight is quite hard when you are a foodie. Thanks for sharing this helpful article!
I know what it’s like to love food. Yup, it’s hard. But if I can do it, anyone can.
I can definitely relate to this as my weight has always been an issue in my life. After having kids at an older age (38) I finally found the motivation to be healthier. Something that means more than just looking good or having more energy. While those things certainly motivate me, I want to be able to see my kids graduate high school, marry, have kids of their own, etc. My family also has a lot of diseases. Diabetes, obesity, heart disease, etc. Sometimes it just takes the right motivation to set your mind right. I wish you the best on your journey!
Hi Sarah, Thank you very much for your encouragement. I need all the help I can get. Seeing your kids, graduate, marry, and becoming a grandmother are the best motivation that any mother can have. Keep healthy and I’m sure you will enjoy many, many years of your children’s lives!